If your portals are linked up perfectly, it should work, unless the portals are less than 128 blocks apart in the overworld, as things get weird. See, the game doesn't generate new portals unless they are 128 blocks apart in the overworld, or 16 blocks in the nether, so there might be some weird stuff going on with chunk loader 1 and chunk
so the temporary solution is that i deleted the byg and the dm-1 folder and went into the server and made it generate a new vanilla nether and it worked.. the sad thing is not having access to all the stuff that byg would add
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